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Feeling sad, anxious, or angry at times is a normal part of the human experience. But do you — or someone you’re close to — seem to experience these and similar emotions more quickly, more frequently, and more intensely than most people?

This problem, known as emotional dysregulation, is a hallmark of many mental health conditions, but especially borderline personality disorder. The most effective treatment for borderline personality disorder is dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which has also been shown to help people experiencing other issues. What is DBT, who might benefit from this form of therapy, and how is it applied?

What is DBT?

DBT focuses on teaching people skills to manage intense emotions, cope with challenging situations, and improve their relationships. It encourages people to learn and use mindfulness training in practical ways.

During individual and group sessions, therapists encourage a nonjudgmental attitude and emphasize acceptance, compassion, and other aspects of mindfulness.

Who may benefit from DBT?

DBT has a proven track record for addressing the most debilitating symptoms of borderline personality disorder: self-injury and suicide threats or attempts. It is now also used to treat depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, eating disorders, and substance use disorders.

In fact, the cornerstone of DBT — the skills training — can help anyone navigate emotionally charged situations with more ease.

How can mindfulness change how people experience strong emotions?

Many people in therapy have very strong emotions that lead to negative thoughts, says Dr. Blaise Aguirre, a psychiatrist who founded the 3 East Dialectic Behavior Therapy Continuum at Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital. “They say things like, ‘I’m stupid,’ or ‘I can’t control my anger,’ or ‘No one will ever love me,'” he says.

The mindfulness aspect of DBT teaches people to pay careful attention to the nature, quality, and volume of their thoughts. The idea is to observe these thoughts as separate from yourself without identifying with their meaning. This is the first step to addressing the impact of those thoughts, Dr. Aguirre explains.

How does DBT differ from cognitive behavioral therapy?

DBT is derived from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT assumes that certain negative thoughts (cognitions) are distortions, and if you learn how to swap those distorted thoughts with more productive ones, you’ll be less depressed or anxious.

“But for someone with very deep emotions and convictions, telling them that their thoughts and feelings are somehow ‘wrong’ feels very invalidating,” says Dr. Aguirre. A DBT-trained therapist would instead acknowledge that the person’s thoughts make sense, given who they are and their experiences. This practice, known as validation, is a central tenet of DBT. It’s key to know that you can validate a person’s thoughts even if you don’t agree with them.

That concept touches on the core of DBT — the dialectical part. It refers to the idea that two opposite things can be true at the same time. Rather than viewing things in extremes of black and white, DBT encourages people to recognize there’s more than one way to view a situation and to try to “walk the middle path.” A classic DBT mantra is “I’m doing the best that I can in this moment, and I want to and can do better.”

What other skills does DBT rely on?

In addition to mindfulness, DBT teaches three other main skills:

• Distress tolerance is the ability to manage emotional distress in the moment, using techniques such as distraction.
• Emotion regulation involves recognizing, accepting, and managing intense emotions.
• Interpersonal effectiveness focuses on improving communication with other people to strengthen relationships and improve your self-esteem.

What does DBT entail?

Ideally, DBT includes one-on-one sessions with a therapist (who is also available between sessions for phone or text coaching). The one-on-one sessions are combined with weekly group sessions led by a therapist who teaches the specific, interconnected skills and gives homework that helps to reinforce the skills. Participants are encouraged to keep a daily diary to track their emotions, behaviors, reactions, and examples of how they’re practicing their skills.

DBT has been shown to be effective for people ranging from adolescents to older adults with a range of mental health conditions. It appears to be especially useful for adolescents, perhaps for the same reason that it’s easier to learn a language or how to play an instrument when you’re younger rather than older, says Dr. Aguirre.

Are there different options for gaining access to DBT?

Accessing the full DBT experience can be challenging for many people. The skills groups meet for one to two hours weekly for six to 12 months, which is in addition to weekly, hour-long sessions with an individual therapist. Individual therapy may cost as much as $250 to $300 per hour, and the groups are often around $100 per hour. Not all DBT providers accept insurance.

“We’re starting to recognize that the majority of people can improve just doing the skills groups and don’t need the full DBT,” says Dr. Aguirre.

But for teens who are suicidal or harming themselves, intensive DBT can help keep them out of the hospital and potentially save their lives. “If your child had cancer, you wouldn’t think twice about taking them in for chemotherapy infusions twice a week,” says Dr. Aguirre.

Another problem is that there aren’t many DBT-trained providers in less populated parts of the country. Online DBT therapy may be an option, although its effectiveness hasn’t been studied.

Is there one simple DBT tool I can try?

If a family member struggles with very strong emotions, Dr. Aguirre offers this mini-DBT lesson about validation. Situations that trigger intense emotions are often rooted in a perception of abandonment, neglect, or rejection, he says. For example, if a person believes that someone at work is avoiding them, or a romantic partner doesn’t show up on time, it can trigger a rapid rise in emotional distress.

Here’s what to avoid saying:

“You have to calm down.”

“You are making a big deal over nothing.”

“When I am upset, I make myself a nice cup of tea and that should help you, too.”

Here’s what you can say instead:

“You seem really upset. Do you want to talk about it, or do you want some time by yourself?’

“You seem very sad. I am around if you want to talk.”

“Is there anything that I can do to help?”

“These types of statements validate the person’s feelings and convey that you’re listening and open to helping, if that’s what they want,” says Dr. Aguirre.

About the Author

Julie Corliss, Executive Editor, Harvard Heart Letter

Julie Corliss is the executive editor of the Harvard Heart Letter. Before working at Harvard, she was a medical writer and editor at HealthNews, a consumer newsletter affiliated with The New England Journal of Medicine. She … See Full Bio View all posts by Julie Corliss

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Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

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As a kid, I spent many Saturdays romping around my Florida neighborhood imitating Colonel Steve Austin, better known as The Six Million Dollar Man to avid TV watchers in the 1970s.

The popular show featured a bionic man — half human and half machine — who could jump from three-story buildings, leap over six-foot-high walls, and bolt into a full 60-mile-per-hour sprint. Naturally, these actions occurred in slow motion with an iconic vibrating electronic sound effect.

My own bionic moves involved jumping to pluck oranges from tree branches, hopping over anthills, and leaping across narrow ditches while humming that distinctive sound. I didn’t realize it, but this imitation game taught me the foundations of plyometrics — the popular training routine now used by top athletes to boost strength, power, and agility.

What are plyometrics?

Plyometric training involves short, intense bursts of activity that target fast-twitch muscle fibers in the lower body. These fibers help generate explosive power that increases speed and jumping height.

“Plyometrics are used by competitive athletes who rely on quick, powerful movements, like those in basketball, volleyball, baseball, tennis, and track and field,” says Thomas Newman, lead performance specialist with Harvard-affiliated Mass General Brigham Center for Sports Performance and Research. Plyometrics also can help improve coordination, agility, and flexibility, and offer an excellent heart-pumping workout.

Who can safely try plyometrics?

There are many kinds of plyometric exercises. Most people are familiar with gym plyometrics where people jump onto the top of boxes or over hurdles.

But these are advanced moves and should only be attempted with the assistance of a trainer once you have developed some skills and muscle strength.

Keep in mind that even the beginner plyometrics described in this post can be challenging. If you have had any joint issues, especially in your knees, back, or hips, or any trouble with balance, check with your doctor before doing any plyometric training.

How to maximize effort while minimizing risk of injury

• Choose a surface with some give. A thick, firm mat (not a thin yoga mat); well-padded, carpeted wood floor; or grass or dirt outside are good choices that absorb some of the impact as you land. Do not jump on tile, concrete, or asphalt surfaces.
• Aim for just a few inches off the floor to start. The higher you jump, the greater your impact on landing.
• Bend your legs when you land. Don’t lock your knees.
• Land softly, and avoid landing only on your heels or the balls of your feet.

Three simple plyometric exercises

Here are three beginner-level exercises to jump-start your plyometric training. (Humming the bionic man sound is optional.)

Side jumps

Stand tall with your feet together. Shift your weight onto your right foot and leap as far as possible to your left, landing with your left foot followed by your right one. Repeat, hopping to your right. That’s one rep.

• You can hold your arms in front of you or let them swing naturally.
• Try not to hunch or round your shoulders forward as you jump.
• To make this exercise easier, hop a shorter distance to the side and stay closer to the floor.

Do five to 15 reps to complete one set. Do one to three sets, resting between each set.

Jump rope

Jumping rope is an effective plyometric exercise because it emphasizes short, quick ground contact time. It also measures coordination and repeated jump height as you clear the rope.

• Begin with two minutes of jumping rope, then increase the time or add extra sets.
• Break it up into 10- to 30-second segments if two minutes is too difficult.
• If your feet get tangled, pause until you regain your balance and then continue.

An easier option is to go through the motions of jumping rope but without the rope.

Forward hops

Stand tall with your feet together. Bend your knees and jump forward one to two feet. Turn your body around and jump back to the starting position to complete one rep.

• Let your arms swing naturally during the hop.
• To make this exercise easier, hop a shorter distance and stay closer to the floor.
• If you want more of a challenge, hop farther and higher. As this becomes easier to do, try hopping over small hurdles. Begin with something like a stick and then increase the height, such as with books of various thicknesses.

Do five to 10 hops to complete one set. Do one to three sets, resting between each set.

About the Author

Matthew Solan, Executive Editor, Harvard Men's Health Watch

Matthew Solan is the executive editor of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. He previously served as executive editor for UCLA Health’s Healthy Years and as a contributor to Duke Medicine’s Health News and Weill Cornell Medical College’s … See Full Bio View all posts by Matthew Solan

About the Reviewer

Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

Dr. Howard LeWine is a practicing internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing, and editor in chief of Harvard Men’s Health Watch. See Full Bio View all posts by Howard E. LeWine, MD